@dander I simply do not share your viewpoint, your life experience or your position in the path of life. It's not a trees verses forest issue, I don't just see a forest or even a continent or even a whole planet, I see a universe of twenty trillion visible galaxies and maybe an infinity beyond that, and that perspective does give me a slightly different viewpoint on human perspective. I try to help where I can and if you feel you can only learn from pain well that's your option too, not one that I would choose, but when pain does come my way I don't glorify it, I extract whatever information I can and learn from it.