@marlathetourist the thing is, once you're in that position of husbando. you kinda have to act that role because that is the expectation. it's fucked up but it's his identity and he's just playing the role, even if he might disagree with it. that's what self-entrapment looks like and why going your own way(not necessarily disengaging but merely doing what YOU want and desire) is so hard. it's all social conditioning essentially.