i would never excuse women for their behavior, no matter what. but it has to be said that the society is set up in such a way that girls going solo, trying to make it out in the world on their own is the only sane choice. trying to be a tradwife from the get go is a huge risk. so going "strong and independent" is the safest choice. obviously it goes against the family, just like feminists intended, but that path simply makes the most sense for women.