@shinichihaku It's almost projection, because they think having a girlfriend must have value because you don't have one and they do. Logically having a girlfriend is a constant drain of your energy and resources. The outcome is the old you is destroyed, and you become stronger, or you die from heartbreak. On the other hand, being single takes self-discipline, reliance, and motivation skills that will serve you very well if you do happen to want a relationship.