Back in 2000 there were a lot of relationship magick gurus going around saying to make a list of all the things you want out of a gf/bf/spouse, and then list everything you need, and then be honest with yourself about what you can realistically find and attract and couple with and refine your lists accordingly. And then you were supposed to make yourself the kind of person that your ideal partner would want to be with. Women went crazy with the lists and have forgotten the most crucial parts.