@basedbagel - It builds character.
I recently had a love that ended badly - which I expected, but it still hurt immensely. I was reflecting on being held captive by my heart (useful shorthand for limbic system & associated neural pathways).
And I realized that philosophically, there is no point in having a heart that is subject to one's will. And life would be much more meaningless, without the pain that can bring.
Perhaps something similar applies to the families we are born into. 🤷🏻♂️🍻