@Tfmonkey is showing the way. Your instincts are a lie. They exist to help you survive and reproduce, not be happy or fulfilled. Your instincts tell you to pursue wealth, power, status, so that you will get love and be happy. But this is a lie! Men become rich and remain unhappy – amass power and status but experience no joy – and perhaps, just perhaps, are finally loved by women but only as a means to an end.