@37712 I have no direct contact with that nephew (only through my sister and mother who are enabling) since he already knows what I think. I raised my son right (I was told to not give guidance to my nephew by his POS abusive dad years ago). My son is now grown and away to college to study engineering, but no matter what I do, l cannot control the rest of the world that he lives in. I was not looking for advice or judgement. I know I shouldn't care about my nephew anymore, but I do.