@TenaciousGoat I encourage you to attend and become involved. Just be careful how much you say, regardless of how true it is.
You do not have to change the church back to patriarchy. You will find that couples who stay together do this naturally. And, unfortunately, most of the time we won't find women like this under age 60 even within the church. Beware -- they will APPEAR this way and SAY these things and ACT this way at first.
Maybe Gen Z/Alpha has better luck with theirs.