the fact that there is such a variety in the stories of how men met their wives today is a pretty good sign that they don't contain much actionable information. they may be interesting anecdotes but you can't make a plan based on a bunch of anecdotes with few common threads
300 years ago damn near everybody in a given region met their spouse the same way. they probably lived within a few miles of each other, met at community events, and there was significant social support in getting the marriage off the ground
300 years ago damn near everybody in a given region met their spouse the same way. they probably lived within a few miles of each other, met at community events, and there was significant social support in getting the marriage off the ground
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@deprecated_ii Correct. There is no foolproof way to meet a wife. Like all other types of success, you need preparation and opportunity.
And yes, having "more options" becomes counterintuitive because you have a whole lot of people refusing to settle for reasonable options right in front of them with the idea that they will be able to perpetually roll the dice and get an even better deal. While this applies to both men and women, I see it as a bigger problem for women than men.
@houseoftolstoy @deprecated_ii @houseoftolstoy Very true! I have known a few women/men who have dated on the internet and started planning important events. I find that a bit extreme considering most of the time you have no idea who that person really is and what goals they have set, etc. I've never personally dated online because of that reasoning. They might even be a Troon. I mean you really don't know. A lot of people depend on the internet way too much for dating and connecting with people. Granted, it is fun sometimes. However to pursue a romantic relationship, it's too much.
instead of knowing a small number of men and being happy to start a family with one of them, they think every man in 200 miles is a possibility