Yeah in the world of hobbies and jobs that can be a hobby (basically anything fun or offered as a simulator on steam) I really learned it when I dated a bicyclist girl. She was HUGE into the hobby, $15,000 bikes and all, but we'd go out and she would lose interest after an hour and two photo opps. She didn't actually LIKE the activity itself, she merely liked having the branding of the healthy, granola, competitive cyclist around her name.
It's a direct contrast to how guys do it (white guys, at least. Browns are more femme in the way they act see "I'm a baller!" identity for their version of the phenomenon). If you offered a guy an invisible dream scenario to enjoy his hobby - a mountain all to himself, with a top-tier machine or a 6 hours with a WWII warbird - he'll be over the moon for the experience alone, in an absolute vacuum. Tell him the caveat is that there's no proof it happened, no pics, no recordings, no status from it and he'll be pumped the same anyways.
Women wouldn't like that deal, because they don't like the doing aspect of hobbies. They like Being. It's a facet of their greater psychology but something that I emphasize in microcosms like these, because guys stupidly want to find girls that like the silly stuff we do - and that's never fun in a relationship if you expect her to like your hobbies the way you do.
(Guess which of the riders below is a guy)
RT: https://poa.st/objects/a3878860-f86e-4609-a605-06f3621b023a
@WashedOutGundamPilot @pepsi_man I suspect that social media has made this a much more common occurrence, where everyone who wants to seek attention finds different ways to do it. Having "hobbies" that look good with pictures is one example.
Another annoying example is women who "love to travel," but also only do any excursions for the sake of taking pictures and do nothing more with their time once the pictures are taken.
@houseoftolstoy @pepsi_man It's definitely much worse, but I remember seeing it as a kid, too. It's always been a pitfall anytime a subculture became an identity. It's just a lot worse now, too.
If you look at pre-internet roastie jobs you'll see it a lot - a good deal of the female suffering in my family is rooted in girls trying to be the powerful 70's career womyn without realizing that meant spending 50 straight years in a cubicle