I'm convinced half the reason XMPP isn't more popular is because of how complex it is to get group chats to function, much less function well. Holy heck, this is dumb.
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anyone can run their own XMPP server and there is no central master server.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/XMPP
I had to look it up on Wikipedia
Most people do not know how to do anything if it is not already on a popular thing that has been taught to a lot of other people
Somehow I think what I said sounds like circular reasoning and I am not sure if it is or not
