I'd like some thoughts on some feedback I received from an individual who is training me in a leadership role for an organization to which I belong:
He stated that I say "please" too much to people who are under my authority in my role. He stated that I need to simply tell them what to do rather than asking them. To me, it makes more sense to use both but to tailor my speech to the person. Some people respond better to commands and others to requests.
Thoughts?
@DoubleD
Being a good leader is 100% tailoring the right message to each underling.
Your trainer told you what works for him most of the time, which is a valid point, but applying his approach to everyone will definitely lose you top talent that has an ego problem or worse, someone who would be great if given freedom, vague guidelines and a clear goal.
On the other hand, it might not be worth the extra effort of tailored approach if you don't have any stake on the business/project. Trade-offs...
