@DoubleD no reading recommendation here, the topic just reminds me how I internalized pride as something that should be personal, and not based on group identity. People say George Carlin was cringe, but his point that pride should be about personal accomplishment was and still is correct. I'm not proud of being a man or being white. I'm happy with those things. I'm only proud of what I've accomplished or what influence I've had on others.