Without witnesses why do you think pepper spray will protect you from police charging you?
She'll just lie, play victim and say you started it.
Absolutely but I'm looking for the least shitty solution.
If you're dealing wit some amber heard type of hoe better to mace her than get your finger cut off or knock her out.
It's a no-win situation but IMO you have a better chance in court if she has no marks or bruises.
I see. Depends on the situation. If it's a rando in public then just run. Better than any alternative. If you can't then whip out the phone to record, call out for others to help as witnesses and do what you can to de-escalate without knocking her godamn teeth out.
If it's private with someone you know, then bad luck. Record if you can, GTFO if you can and then end the situation with that bitch permanently asap.
You're right. It's wrong on every level and it reinforces her bad behavior.
I also know that if I let myself get dragged into it and my anger flows, she's not getting up in a hurry and I'm going to prison.
It sucks, but there are no good options here. One day, she willl fuck with someone with low impulse control and a record, and that will be the end of that bitch.