I haven't seen the film, but what you describe @Zeb was the dominant social programming for men and boys at that time. It was the Gen-X life script constantly rammed down our throats with films just like that.
Thank God the internet has cut the legs out from all that bullshit, but it's come at a high cost.
Just from personal observation I'd say it's destroyed roughly 60% of fathers and families from my generation, and I'm including men of ambition, competence and guts.