@basedbagel - And something sadly ironic: sex abuse actually did happen in my family, growing up.
And as I get to know people closely... more often than not, there comes a point when it comes out that they've been subjected to sexual shenanigans themselves, by adults, as children.
It's at the point now, that I almost view sex-abuse as normal (whether we would normalize it, or not). It's like some kind of rite-of-passage... which is kinda fucked up, actually.
@basedbagel - And sorry to ramble here... But you were right to drop your friend.
Fuck that guy. Odds are greater than zero, that he's projecting what's inside of him, anyway (I might feel bad for his kids though).
I wouldn't worry about him having kids. Last I heard he went full black pill.
That's why I have such disdain for the black pill mentality.
They just give up on life and actively antagonize those who try to help and hate on anyone trying to do better as "copers".
Wow I'm sorry you had to go through that man. Abuse is definitely NOT normal and should never be normalized but God willing I will be out of the country before it ever does.
I was Shocked because it was my so called "best friend" but at this point to me all friends are temporary.
IMO him insulting me came from faithlessness and envy.
@basedbagel - Thank you. I don't mean to mislead... It was my sister who got the worst of it.
Most people I know, they take a sort of "shit happens" view of it, and they move on. And really, that's about all anybody can do.
But yeah, if the guy who did all of that to my sister weren't already dead... I'd be sorely tempted to kill him.
@basedbagel - But I guess the point your post brings to mind, is this: Whatever we have been doing up til now, to prevent sex abuse of children... It's not working.
All the paranoia, and the general alienation of men from children... It's not working (assuming abuse prevention is even the goal). I know more molested people than non-molested people.
Maybe it's a variation on a theme, something like: avoiding pain leads to pain.