Today I was getting some things in town, and I saw a female in the market who possessed a cute face. I wanted to complement her, but I realized how many things could go horribly wrong simply because I wanted to express my appreciation for aesthetic features I found pleasing. It irks me that I must suppress my wholesome expressions and appreciations because this society is afflicted with the cancer of egalitarianism and is suffering its follow-on symptoms.
@YoMomz Under patriarchy, it'd have been a different situation, yes. If her guardian was her father, I'd likely have complimented him on having such a pretty daughter. For now, I will simply appreciate the human form from afar.
@DoubleD Gotta learn to stop caring about the opinions of others. If you want to compliment and appreciate her beauty. I suggest doing it so you can at least live without the regret.
@TenaciousGoat I don't care about her opinion. I care about what force the government would bring down upon me should she and it decide that my complement was sexual assault.
Additionally, I do not regret abstaining from speaking to her. I would rather not speak to her, avoid potential disaster, and share my thoughts and feelings on the matter. I do not regret my actions. I act. I assess. I learn. I share my thoughts on matters which strike me as valuable to myself or potentially others.
@TenaciousGoat I appreciate your sentiment though. Your concern is welcomed.
@DoubleD No problem, happy to help. If you want to get closer to her ask if she would like help with something. I have been internalizing Briffault’s law because it’s the only thing that makes sense to the male x female dynamic. I have also tested it in my life and I haven’t found any counter examples.
@TenaciousGoat If I wanted to build a relationship with a female, I likely would appeal to Briffault's law. The necessity of providing utility provided to a female for the purpose of facilitating a relationship is not in question; you are right.
@DoubleD - It's the little things that drive the larger point home.
I would bet money that her personality was as off-putting as her appearance was pleasing (once scratching the surface). But imagine: under patriarchy she would probably be pleasant to be around too. 🍻