I had to look that up because I couldn't believe it but you're right it was that recent but it was legal until 1993... That's crazy!
Refusing to fuck your husband and still expecting to be provided for is like not showing up to work but expecting your employer to pay you anyway.
That's not now things work and you have to be morally bankrupt\retarded to think so.
I'm not a proponent of raping your wife but...