Its alcan be of all 3. But in present day it's mostly #3
It's within their competence in the sense that if society nudged them enough they could.
It is "abusive" if you use the term in a leftist way because it does cause women temporary dissatisfaction.
It's also a hilarious form of torture if you cannot provide negative reinforcement on a macro level.
I do not think it is in the competance of most people of either gender to make their own life decisions after so much systematic brainwashing
Also if you can not do basic math without a calculator you should not be allowed to vote, attend college, attend high school, have parental custody, be considered able to consent, be considered able to have the rights and responsibilities that someone who could consent would have
That's nonsensical nerd speak.
You don't need to be good at math to raise a healthy child.
They have nothing to do with each other