@Tfmonkey

How do I not feel resentment towards friends who are doing better then me in terms of earnings? Is it about trade offs or is there something else I'm missing

@VooDooMedic the competition is only with yourself. You should be happy for your friends who are doing well.

Live the life you want and be happy. How others are doing, both better and worse, are irrelevant to you. If your friend was doing worse that you, it wouldn't make you life any better, it would be exactly the same except your friend would be suffering.

So share in the happiness of your friends and stop trying to "win".

@Tfmonkey that's what my first thought was, then the resentment started to seep in I was truly happy for him and my brain was like yes that's awesome but you only earnt 1/10 of that, then my other side was like "yes but counter argument: he also is working like 140 hours a fortnight"

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@YoMomz @VooDooMedic Explore why you want your friends to fail to be happy yourself, and it likely sparks from an unspoken competition you're holding in your mind against your friend to see who the "best" is, and you feel you're losing.

That competition doesn't exist. You're making yourself suffer unnecessarily.

@Tfmonkey @VooDooMedic - Shortcut: tell yourself that your friend is failing in other parts of life - because they probably are.

An eye-opening realization I had a while back, is that no one's life (certainly not any NPC's life) is everything they wish it were.

Just 2¢. 🍻

@YoMomz @Tfmonkey first thing he said to me was exactly that I was updating him on my fitness progress and he was like "fuck I'm too busy to go to the gym" and I can tell it bugs him alot that he isn't able to go to the gym as much as I do since we used to go everyday together

@VooDooMedic @YoMomz Instead of being resentful and jealous, encourage each other in one another's failures, and celebrate in one another's successes.

Doesn't that sound like a better way to live?

@Tfmonkey @YoMomz absolutely and that's what I strive to do every time, which is why I was asking the question to begin with, I don't want this negativity ruining a good thing