@basedbagel - Yeah, this is very true. I've intervened in several cases, and the females are just as complicit. I wasn't white-knighting... These women were people I share DNA with.
With each new experience, I have found it more useful and expedient as a peacemaker/abuse-relationship-breaker, to simply impose your will upon both parties.
This means you have be strong, possess sound judgement, and be willing and able to inflict painful violence.