I know this not the best place for it. But my last decent relationship has come to a close. It was a bad terms mutual sort of thing. I was not perfect, neither was she. It still hurts man. I feel a bit lost. Any advice, or chatting would be appreciated. Normally I am resilient, but the people I do care about still hurt to lose.

@FinalDresdonation

Sorry to hear that man.

I'll save you the hackneyed motivational speech and just say this.

It usually takes 1/2 the time you were I a relationship to get over it so while I know it hurts now, remember time carries most of the weight.

There's nothing wrong with caring about someone as long as you're still productive, it just means your note a psychopath

I know your pain @FinalDresdonation

Best advice I can give you is to try to distract yourself with things/people you enjoy.

@basedbagel I'm trying man. It's never easy. All I can say is I came out feeling neglected and sad. It is just up after the bottom. It will just be getting used to the loneliness.

@FinalDresdonation

I know its hard but You dont have to be lonely.

Try to find some friends, family to cheer you up.

It'll help you recover faster

@basedbagel Yeah, I'm still on day one. The biggest thing is going to be missing saying good morning and goodnight to someone I genuinely did love for the last 5 years. The little routines man. That's just the big part of the void for me. The person and our little things.

I am contacting people though as best I can. Cut work off a bit. I need to sort myself out.

5 years huh? @FinalDresdonation

Yeah that's gonna take a while to heal.

I've never been in a relationship that long so I could only imagine how you feel.

Try not to focus on it right now and just keep putting 1 foot in front of the other.

This too shall pass.

@basedbagel It's been a struggle since post lockdowns I've lifted my entire life away to try and accomplish a lot. I could only shoulder so much. When it's all fallen now I'm alone and while I am my own bedrock I just have little social outlets. I'm quiet, but very social to those I care about. When that drops out I have a very hard time replacing it.

@FinalDresdonation @basedbagel

It will pass. There will be sadness and suffering but it will be ok.
I went through a divorce some time ago. Haven't had a relationship since. It was a very painful process but I've grown a huge amount since then, and continue to do so. In a sense, I lost the relationship and the person I loved, but I gained myself.
Agree with bagel too that it's good to try to stay somewhat active and focus on other relationships, as well as reflecting and having your "me time"

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People who quit something, like smoking, usually have a period where it will be very difficult until they are readjusted to the new normal.
It's like leaving the orbit of a habit/person/relationship. It takes a lot of effort to get outside of it but it will become normal.

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