I'd like some thoughts on some feedback I received from an individual who is training me in a leadership role for an organization to which I belong:
He stated that I say "please" too much to people who are under my authority in my role. He stated that I need to simply tell them what to do rather than asking them. To me, it makes more sense to use both but to tailor my speech to the person. Some people respond better to commands and others to requests.
Thoughts?
(This is after quizzing me on how I would handle situations and examining my hypothetical responses.)
@Stahesh Good points from Sun Tzu
Honestly, the answer is going to be different if you're managing men or women.
Assuming men, you can go right ahead and be as blunt as you like so long as they perceive you to be a good servant-leader.
Women have access to shadow hierarchies & gossip mills that men typically don't, which means eventually they will shit test you. That's just how it is.
@DoubleD I think he has small PP when he need to state in every request that he is above them in every request.
Like king talking to peasant.
What you do is more like king making request to someone he trust.
Like don''t you want to give some reward and respect to people that are under you and make good job.