@37712 Literally nobody uses the word "ephebephilia" except pedophiles who want to differentiate themselves from the 'bad pedophiles'. It's like people who insist they're Otakus and not Weebs.
If you're in your early 20s and you have a 17 year old girlfriend, I don't think you should be on a sex offender list. However, if you're in your 30s or 40s, yes you should be.
If you're old enough to be their dad, and they're underage, you're a pedophile as far as I'm concerned.