@VooDooMedic I'm glad you tried to explain that TFM has been propagandised about BDSM.
I've tried to explain it as well, but he maintains the perception that it must involve pain or sex in some way even though that's not true.
I've been in several BDSM relationships, and most were life-style primary relationships rather than just session-based.
@VooDooMedic I think that BDSM was an outlet for people not to exercise the sadism/masochism kink in society as that was always done where it was desired in the bedroom, rather, it was a means by which those who desired to experience a power dynamic in a "safe" way. Western society doesn't understand BDSM, but it is a safe box into which vanilla people can put someone: "Oh, you have a sub and a family that operates like all families did 1000 years ago? That's fine because it's a kink."
