@Mongoliaboo
I hear you but this was my best friend so I was at his 🏠 everyday and sometimes they didn't know I was there.
Here were some 🗝️ takeaways:
⏺️They argued from time to time but unlike my house there was NO yelling/talking over each other.
⏺️His parents allowed him privacy and didn't remove 🔒 on his door and go through his shit randomly.
⏺️ZERO violence of any kind. I got spanked/slapped alot and once my mom pulled a knife on my dad...
⏺️They asked their kids for input
and treated them with common human decency. Rarely any insults because they had a bad day
⏺️This one shocked me the most:
They genuinely ENJOYED each other's company and got homesick if they were away for long. 😲
I recall distinctly on my 1st 3 day field trip as a kid everyone but me cried on the way there because they missed their fam.
I cried on the way back knowing I was headed back to a warzone 😂
Didn't realize that was abnormal till ~10 yrs later lol no privilege 4 me
@Mongoliaboo
@basedbagel @Mongoliaboo @shortstories @sardonicsmile
> I can't name a single family member who wasn't a net negative for me.
There is a reason why the ninth circle of Hell, the lowest and most severe of all in Dante's Inferno is reserved for those guilty of betrayal.
Betrayal is the worst of all crimes because it comes from those you love, and those wounds almost never heal.
"The Betrayers Kiss", a depiction of Judas by one of the old masters.
@basedbagel @Mongoliaboo @shortstories @sardonicsmile
People think abusive or dysfunctional families don't work, and that's a big fucking lie. You can bind a family together by making someone the scapegoat so that all the things that go wrong become that person's fault.
And it will work. Everyone will develop a close bond based on excluding and blaming one person in the family.
I wish I knew nothing about betrayal, so I'll opt for Beauty instead.
@UncleIroh @basedbagel @Mongoliaboo @shortstories @sardonicsmile Yes, you are correct, and I'm so happy to see that you are opting for Beauty! We need more appreciation of Aesthetics as a discipline.
@DoubleD @basedbagel @Mongoliaboo @shortstories @sardonicsmile
Amen brother
@UncleIroh
@Mongoliaboo @shortstories @sardonicsmile
>You can bind a family together by making someone the scapegoat so that all the things that go wrong become that person's fault.
So rude, if you're going to share my personal story it's common courtesy to ask me first! 😭
>I wish I knew nothing about betrayal
You and me both. It gave me this paranoia I can't shake and the pandemic didn't help
On the bright side if is was close w/ my fam itd be hard to exit this Godforsaken nation