How do I not feel resentment towards friends who are doing better then me in terms of earnings? Is it about trade offs or is there something else I'm missing
@Tfmonkey that's what my first thought was, then the resentment started to seep in I was truly happy for him and my brain was like yes that's awesome but you only earnt 1/10 of that, then my other side was like "yes but counter argument: he also is working like 140 hours a fortnight"
@YoMomz @VooDooMedic Explore why you want your friends to fail to be happy yourself, and it likely sparks from an unspoken competition you're holding in your mind against your friend to see who the "best" is, and you feel you're losing.
That competition doesn't exist. You're making yourself suffer unnecessarily.
@VooDooMedic @YoMomz punch yourself in the dick 100 times and challenge your friends to beat your score.
There, do you feel like a winner?
@Tfmonkey @VooDooMedic - Shortcut: tell yourself that your friend is failing in other parts of life - because they probably are.
An eye-opening realization I had a while back, is that no one's life (certainly not any NPC's life) is everything they wish it were.
Just 2¢. 🍻
@VooDooMedic @YoMomz Instead of being resentful and jealous, encourage each other in one another's failures, and celebrate in one another's successes.
Doesn't that sound like a better way to live?
@VooDooMedic @YoMomz your feelings follow your focus. Focus on yourself and your own progress. As long as you're better than you were yesterday, you're winning.
Or you can always challenge your friend to a dick punching contest.
@Tfmonkey @VooDooMedic @YoMomz Men by nature are Competitive creatures what you are telling him to basically go against his nature. TFM you always saying that communism/feminism does not work because it goes against nature, dont you have abetter solution than this
@Tfmonkey @VooDooMedic @YoMomz by this ideology most homeless drug addicts are leaving the dream life
@37712 @VooDooMedic @YoMomz homeless drug addicts are exactly where they want to be, so yes they are.
@VooDooMedic the competition is only with yourself. You should be happy for your friends who are doing well.
Live the life you want and be happy. How others are doing, both better and worse, are irrelevant to you. If your friend was doing worse that you, it wouldn't make you life any better, it would be exactly the same except your friend would be suffering.
So share in the happiness of your friends and stop trying to "win".